Karmic Relationships

Karmic Relationships - how to spot them and how to clear them!

Last week week we were all talking about Soulmates and Twin Flames, and this week I thought we'd delve even deeper and have a chat about Karmic Relationships.

<3 So like, what is a Karmic Relationship?

A karmic relationship enters your life because it's time to clear some karma. Usually from past life issues, but it can be due to issues that have been created in this lifetime too. When we find ourselves in a karmic relationship we can either grow, learn and expand or stagnate, obsess, and break apart. Or, which is most often the case with karmic relationships - it's a little of all of the above.

Karmic relationships kind of have this rep of being all consuming, soul destroying, obsessive, passionate and intense love affairs that begin as a feeling of meeting your soulmate and end with you crying your eyes out on your kitchen floor months or years later. But it's not always like that. Sometimes a karmic relationship brings that first love kind of vibe - something new and exciting that reminds you how awesome it is to be alive.

Karmic Relationships are here to teach us something big - about ourselves, about others, about relationships and about life.

Whether we are clearing out past life or current life karma these relationships can come in two costumes - the guy or gal you knew in a past life who brings you the stuff from that life, or the person who you haven't known before but is a kind ofmessenger who brings it all up for you.

You may only have one or two of these relationships in your lifetime, or you may be like me and have spent over 10 years attracting them in various forms!

<3 Past life connections

You know that feeling you get when you meet someone for the first time and you are instantlyattracted to them on some level? It's like you've got the hots for them, or you just find them really interesting or cool, or you start talking to them and it's like you've known them forever. When this happens to me I often think it's because I have met this person before, maybe in a past life, or even in some other realm!

Sometimes we have this feeling about someone and confuse it for this person being our soulmate or twin flame. We start thinking we have to marry this person, and if they are of a different gender from what we usually go for, we can even start thinking that we're changing teams!

So what happens when we hook up with someone we've known in a past life? Sometimes it can be a great thing for us. Someone comes into our life to teach us, help us remember who we are, what we can be, and karmic relationships don't always leave us crying our eyes out in some kind of dark night of the soul type break up. Sometimes this person is here to help you grow and level up. This can be really hard when it ends, even though you will probably come to some beneficial understanding that you've learned what you needed to from each other, and to keep growing you need to go your separate ways.

Maybe you've hooked up with someone you dated or married in a past life. You may have made a plan to meet back up again, because you wanted to be together in your next life too. For some people this works really well for them, and they choose each other over and over again. But what if your life path this time around doesn't match with theirs? What if you came here to join the Peace Corps and they came to experience a comfortable suburban life with a white picket fence? How in the hell is that going to work? Well, it's not. And here you find yourself again, crying on the kitchen floor. But he was the one!! Everything about him was right... except you wanted different things. Just because you were with each other in another life doesn't mean you need to be together again in this one. You need to learn new lessons and grow and achieve new important things, and you know what? Just because you are on different journeys this time around, doesn't mean you aren't going to hang out on a soul level again.

Sometimes though, a karmic relationship is a hell of a lot harder than just wanting different things from life. A lot of us have had hellish past lives with people who were not so nice to us. Maybe you married a man that killed you in a past life, or perhaps you are dating someone who persecuted you in past life for being a white witch. Talk about karma needing clearing! This is when we need to get into a serious look at what's going on; Tarot readings, Past Life regression, whatever type of therapy floats your boat may be in order for you to begin to really let go, forgive and move on from this one!

<3 How to recognise if you are in a karmic relationship

Karmic relationships are usually intense, whether it's because they are constantly painful and it feels like you are travelling to the end of the earth and back on a daily basis, or maybe you are just so freaking ecstatic about being with this person! You may be in a karmic relationship if:

<3 It's tearing you apart but you can't leave

<3 You are on a rollercoaster - it's AMAZING one minute, awful the next

<3 You can never totally be yourself with this person

<3 There is an imbalance of power - yours or theirs

<3 You feel like you are "meant to be together"

<3 You feel like you've known this person before

<3 You've spent more time crying over this relationship than you have enjoying it

<3 You are just totally freaking in love with this person and your life is basically The Notebook

The Notebook - I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day

<3 How to clear the karma!

So let's say you were murdered 500 years ago, probably by someone who was just following orders and would've been killed themselves if they didn't do what they were told. Do you want to hang on to the karma of hating this person for eternity? Let him be free of having to come and meet you every lifetime because of what he did. Maybe you met this same guy on the weekend and you were so drawn to him and he said he'd call and he didn't. Here's your chance to clear some karma - instead of going bat shit crazy because another random you met didn't call you - forgive him and move on. You don't know why he didn't call (maybe he has a girlfriend, isn't in a good place emotionally, maybe he's just a jerk) and you don't know why he had to do what he did in the past. It's not important. What is important is freeing up your energy so you can do the best of everything you came here to do.

Take a deep breath and say: "I release this karma, I forgive and release all those who have hurt me in all directions of time so that I may move forward no longer held by the karma of my past relationships".

Do you want to keep coming back to learn the same old lessons every life time? Or do you once and for all want to stop dating jerks? Sometimes you have to date a jerk to clear the karma of dating jerks right? And if you don't clear that karma, you are just going to keep dating jerks.

We hereby release all karma that keeps us dating jerks! 

For those of you who are experiencing something a lot more intense than an easy fix jerk dating - spend some time really thinking about your relationship. Try to step outside it and see what's really going on. What's happening? What do you feel? Why are you with this person? Maybe you can't do that because you are so "in" the relationship, and that's when it's good to get an outside opinion. I have helped loads of people with their karmic relationship stuff, and I can totally help you see what's going on with your relationship, why you are in it, why you attracted it and how to get the lessons and move on to the blessings!

The answer isn't always to end your relationship when it's difficult. Sometimes you are just being called to understand what's happening, clear the karma and hey, that can even mean staying in your relationship but watching it go from urgh to amaze! Take those two up there from The Notebook - they went through hell to make it work, dealt with the challenges together and had the love affair to end all love affairs!

While they can be one of the hardest things you'll ever have to deal with, karmic relationships are here to help us grow. The Universe hasn't sent them to you to watch you suffer, they are sent to you so you can experience everything this crazy life has to offer - and hey, isn't that why you signed up to come back?!

You know where I am if you need me!

<3 Love, light and karma clearing! <3

Vix

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Weekly Reading - Cosmic Tarot - 8th to 14th June 2015

The weekly reading is here my lovelies! Something big coming out of this week is to get a handle on your finances! Boring, but important! Click below for all the deets and guidance to make your week rock!!

<3 Vix <3

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Soulmates and Twin Flames

Soulmates and twin flames are one of the serious hot topics amongst us spiritual peeps. Do you have a soulmate out there somewhere? Where's your Twin Flame at?! How come you always meet hotties, think you've found your soulmate, then they turn out to be total creeps?!

I love doing relationship readings. As someone who has been through a hell of a lot of relationship "stuff" I love sharing what I've learned in my own life as well as what's in your cards. One thing a lot of people have in common is that they see relationships as destined. Something that happens to them.

This is how I see it...

<3 Soulmates <3

Hollywood has made us think this: You have one soulmate who you are supposed to meet, marry and live happily ever after with. If you don't find your soulmate your life will be incomplete forever. The end. Credits.

You know that feeling you get sometimes when you meet someone new? You feel like you just know this person already? You have so many feelings when you are around them and then, when you are apart you start thinking about them all. the. time. That feeling doesn't mean you are supposed to be with that person forever. Maybe they were someone you hung out with in Ancient Egypt. Maybe they were your hairdresser in Atlantis. Maybe they played trumpet in that Big Band you always used to go and see in the 1920's.

A soulmate is just someone you've known in another life. Probably someone you at least actually liked, were friends with, related to, or yes, maybe even in a relationship with. Your soul family are the people you actively choose to reincarnate with, whereas soulmates are all the people you knew and had adventures with in previous lifetimes.

If you were going to marry your soulmates you'd have a lot of people to marry. That girl you sit next to at work and giggle with all day? If you meet her again in your next lifetime - she's going to be your 'soulmate'. Your souls will recognise each other and you'll have some kind of connection - it doesn't mean you are fated to be together romantically.

You do not have to marry someone just because they were your milkman in a previous life.

<3 Twin Flames <3

Your twin flame is allegedly the other half of your soul.

Ah, heh? My soul is chopped in half and it's walking around somewhere in another body? Whhhaaaaaat? :-O

Some people totally resonate with this idea, and when they find their twin flame they feel complete and perfect and wonderful. If you do feel like your soul is split in half and your other half is out there somewhere trying to find you then that's totally cool too. We are all on a different journey here, and maybe this is a journey some people have chosen.

For me though, the idea that my soul is anything but whole totally grosses me out. I am a whole soul - a whole person and a I can't even begin to imagine what the other half of my soul would be up to if they were just off walking around the planet somewhere!

<3 Karmic Relationships <3

I think I need to cover these in a whole different post you guys, but the gist is that you find yourself in these totally effed up relationships sometimes to deal with karma from the past. Maybe you were going to get married in 1966 and one of you died. Maybe you were even murdered by this person in a past life. Maybe you've attracted them because of relationship patterns you have been repeating or just because you need to learn some stuff. You are drawn to this person to help you clear that karma - not to re-live it! *This is such a nutshell version, stay tuned for a post about this!

I spent my entire twenties trying to find "the one" and looking for "my soulmate". Even though the thought of twin flames never really resonated with me, the idea that there was a person I was meant to be with was totally reassuring. You know, you're sat at home alone watching some chick flick, imagining some guy out there sat at home alone watching some bad action movie. Maybe he's pigging out on popcorn and ice-cream too!!?

I've met a lot of guys that I thought were my soulmate. Some of them I never even dated. I was that girl that every time I met someone new I'd be squealing - "I think he's the one!!" and obsessing over text messages as my friends rolled their eyes.

When I met my current guy it was way different. It was comfortable, maybe a little bit familiar, but it was easy. And everything just fell into place. No games, no drama, no freaking out about not getting texts, no fights.

What I did was make a conscious choice to be with him. And he made the choice to be with me. Every day we make the choice to stay together. And while I do think that I was supposed to meet him, I think we have the free will choice at any point to stay together or part ways. It's not destiny. It's a choice. Great relationships are simply two people jumping in at the same time and saying - yes, this is what I want. It's when that balance gets messy that things get hard.

So I've chosen him as my soulmate. And I really do think we can do that. You can choose your soulmate in this life. Whether this person has shared lifetimes with you, or is a new soul popping up to teach you, to learn from you. That means you can also choose to leave a relationship that feels like destiny but breaks your heart.

You can choose to spend your life with whoever you want to. Your marriage certificate isn't written in stone before you get here.

So stop looking for your soulmate or twin flame, and start seeking someone who is just right for you right now, your journey and all you want from this life here and now.

<3 Love, light and free will lovers! <3

Vix

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(PS - y'all know where I am if you fancy a relationship reading!)

The Weekly Reading - 1 to 7 June 2015 x

This week is all about water energy, what you are attracting relationship wise and SELF FORGIVENESS!

<3 Have a fab week you gorgeous souls! <3

Vix

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Crystals for The Autism Spectrum

Apart from all this woo woo stuff that I do, I also have a background in working with children on the Autism Spectrum. Amazing souls who, for whatever reason, struggle more than most of us on this earth plane.

I do not dare to suggest for a moment that working with crystals is going to cure you, someone you know, or your child from Autism. But if you feel yourself drawn to the idea of using crystals yourself, with those on the Autism spectrum, or if you work or live with people with Autism or Aspergers, I hope that this post will give you some guidance on both which crystals to choose and what to do with them once you have them home.

Crystals to use:

<3 Light blue or medium blue crystals - light blue is the colour of the throat chakra and for many on the spectrum communicating with others is a huge struggle. Light blue stones may help to calm anxiety around communication difficulties or even assist with communication capabilities. Some stones include: Kyanite, Angelite, Celestite, Sodalite,Turquoise, Amazonite, Blue Lace Agate or any other blue stones you can find and are drawn to.

<3 Green crystals - green is a very healing and grounding colour and many green stones have healing properties that may help with creating a feeling of calm. Try Green Calcite, Emerald, Malachite, Adventurine or any other green stone you like the look of!

<3 Clear Quartz - a good for everything crystal that you really can't go wrong with. It's great for clearing energies and may be particularly good for those on the spectrum who find themselves feeling very foggy or confused.

<3 Amethyst - a beautiful purple stone which can help to connect you spiritually as well as being a calming and peaceful stones. Also good for headaches (yours and theirs!).

<3 Grounding stones - as people on the spectrum are usually very much in their heads grounding stones can be useful in helping them to get their feet on the ground and connect with the earth. Obsidian, Smoky Quartz, Apache Tears, Black Tourmaline and any other dark coloured stones are great for helping all of us to get back into our bodies and out of the clouds. These stones are also very good for protecting ourselves and our own energy. Put a piece in your child's pocket at school so that they don't come home with anyone else's emotional "stuff". If you yourself are on the spectrum you may find it useful to wear a grounding stone as a necklace, and if you work with or spend a lot of time with people with Autism you may find that a grounding stone can keep you balanced too!

<3 Choose your own stones intuitively! If you are able to, take your child or just yourself along to a new age or crystal store and see which crystals you are drawn to. Quite often I am drawn to crystals I know nothing about, and later when I look them up, I find that they are exactly what I needed. Browse the store quietly and without too much thought and choose the crystals that appeal to you most, or let your child decide. If you can't take your child into a shop like this, choose a few different gems yourself and then see which ones your child is drawn to when you bring them home.

CRYSTALS TO AVOID:

<3 Any high vibrational crystals! Many people on the spectrum are already very high vibrational and what we want to do is help bring that energy into their bodies, we don't want to send them further away. Try to avoid things like - Aqua Aura, Angel Aura, anything incredibly shiny or colourful, anything man made such as Opalite or any of the other Aura Crystals.

<3 If you or your child is particularly drawn to the high vibrational stones (and you/they probably will be!) try your best to keep your use of them to a minimum!!

How to use your crystals:

If you yourself are going to be using these stones you can:

<3 Put them in your pocket and run your hand over them any time you need to during the day.

<3 Sit quietly while watching TV or listening to music and just hold your crystal.

<3 Meditate and place the crystal on your throat, heart or any place on your body that feels right. You may even just like to hold your crystal while you close your eyes.

<3 Put an amethyst next to your bed to help with sleeping

<3 When you feel very far away and not at all in your body grab your grounding stone and go for a walk outside or just take your shoes off and feel the earth.

If you are using your crystals with children you can:

<3 Create all sorts of games and play with the crystals as if they are people or animals or whatever!

<3 Build crystal grids with your child - these are just patterns of crystals e.g. putting out three or four grounding stones and placing other stones between. You can leave these grids out to bring grounding and healing energy into a room or house.

<3 Pop a crystal in your child's pocket or bag so they can take it with them to school.

<3 Leave the crystals on the coffee table so your child can play with them while watching TV.

<3 Place some Obsidian or Black Tourmaline next to or on top of the laptop or computer.

<3 Make a Gem Elixir for a drink! All you need to do to make this quickly is place some crystals around a glass of water for a little while to infuse the crystal energies into your drink!

There are so many ways you can use crystals and so many things you can do with them. The main thing to remember when working with crystals, just as any of the intuitive arts is to go with what feels right to you. Hopefully you will find that you are able to use crystals for the Autism Spectrum, and I do hope and pray that they will bring even just a small amount of healing and grounding to you or your children's lives.

<3 Love, light and healing crystals <3

Vix

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Weekly Reading - Angel Tarot - 24 to 31 May 2015

Mercury Retrograde 2015 - Stop Bitching and Get Empowered!

Mercury Retrograde empowering stop bitching new age hipster

Every time Mercury Retrograde appears even the most spiritual high vibrational ones amongst us turn our Facebook pages into raging bitch and moan fests. Hey, I've done it too. We all have. We've all been hit with difficulties during these times. Communication break downs, car or electronic break downs and even our own personal melt downs are the things Mercury Retrograde is made of.

May 19th 2015 starts us off on another few weeks of challenges. It's due to end on the 11th of June, but if you are anything like me - a little sensitive to planetary or energetic "stuff" you'll be feeling the shadow period too, which means it ends up being nearly two months of this feeling of wheels spinning going nowhere.

This Mercury Retro though, I've decided to stop complaining and empower myself. Oh, and I've decided to empower you guys too! I've done a reading for you all which you can watch below. It's similar to the weekly reading but I look at how this retro is going to affect us emotionally, how it will affect our earthly stuff (body and like, "stuff"), what may be going on with our thoughts and also, the real kicker - what we can do about it all!

This is what I love about Tarot and divination. You can get a sense of the energies around you and instead of bitching and moaning about it, you can work with them. Use this knowledge to make the most of the Retrograde. Find out now what's going to be your challenge(s!) instead of having a hissy fit every time something Retrogradish happens!

I'm also offering a bunch of Retrograde Readings for y'all over on my Etsy Store! Sometimes when blocks and challenges come to the surface during the M.R it's actually a really good chance to look at what's going on. Mercury doesn't bring up new stuff, it can highlight all the stuff that was already there. Job not going anywhere? Total relationship dramas? It's not like Mercury is making you hate your job, you probably hated it already! It's a great time to go through your stuff, do some journalling, pull your own cards or for the teeny tiny price of just £15 I can whip up a spread for you personally that looks at a bunch of your blocks and challenges and what you can actually do about them. I'm still in my first year of this New Age Hipster biz so I'm pretty cheap right now. One day soon I'll be charging a lot more for this kind of thing so get in quick before my wait list is like a month long because that's what I'm manifesting people! LOL! Seriously though.

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Now here’s my list of tips for rolling forwards when ole’ Mercury is rolling back.

<3 Check in with your goals and make sure you really want to go where you are going. If you’re happy with your path - keep on trekking! If it feels slower, whatever, at least you are moving towards your dream!

<3 Remember it's Mercury that's going backwards - not you!

<3 Don’t use Mercury Retrograde as an excuse to procrastinate and do nothing for three weeks or up to two months!

<3 If you can’t get excited about your dreams during the retrograde maybe you need different dreams.

<3 Don’t blame Mercury for everything that goes wrong. You didn't back up your work, that’s on you babe, not Mercury.

<3 Stay in Gratitude about the good stuff and keep positive.

<3 Every time you moan about Mercury you are manifesting more things for Mercury to do for you to moan to about.

<3 You don’t have to sit in the bath the whole time. Sometimes a quick shower works just as well if you need some self care time.

<3 Check out the video below to see how you can become the High Priestess of the Mercury Retrograde!

<3 Get your own personal Retrograde reading. Sometimes retrograde doesn't just slow us down, it highlights some blocks that we’re actually carrying around like all the time.

<3 Love, light and a bitch-free Mercury Retrograde! <3

Vix

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Don't be afraid of the tower card! x 18 to 24 May 2015

Art Nouveau Tarot by Matt Myers

This week we are getting our messages via the Art Nouveau Tarot by Matt Myers - a freaking awesome 80's tarot deck that is perfect for relationship readings. I did soooo many relationship readings at Higher Selfie last weekend that I think I had this deck on the brain because it was the first one that grabbed me this week!

Start of the week - The Tower

It's pretty common to totally freak out when you see The Tower card. But you know how I see it? Sure everything is crumbling down around you - but the reason it's crumbling is because it wasn't built right. Now is the chance to let anything in your life that isn't right fall away.

Middle of the week - Knight of Swords

And now here comes the Universe with a sword for you to chop away anything that hasn't fallen yet. You have the power to get rid of anything negative or not working in your life, so take up your sword and slice that stuff up! This could also be a really good time to do some decluttering or tidying of book shelves.

End of the week - Nine of Cups

This weekend is time to chill the eff out! You've been working hard, you've been constantly 'on'. This weekend you wanna switch off - as much as you can, and then maybe a little bit more. The best way to show the Universe that you are thankful for your life is to freaking enjoy it! Go out and see friends, finish that YA novel you've been reading for months, spend time with family, and especially if you are in a relationship spend some decent quality time with your person.

It's another powerful week guys! You have the power to make this week amazing - let some of your old crap (inner or outer!) crumble away and then have yourself a damn fine weekend!

You know where you can find me if you fancy a personal reading!

<3 Love, light and Swords of Gryffindore! <3

Vix

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Balancing Gratitude with Wanting More 11th to 18th May 2015

Cosmic Tarot Norbert Losche

This week as I started shuffling the good old Cosmic Tarot I asked for a message for us all - something that would help us know what to do. So it was pretty interesting when I pulled a whole bunch of cards that were like - uh, this week isn't about doing stuff, it's about getting your head together - specifically finding a balance between having gratitude and wanting more...

Beginning of the week - Three of Wands

So first up they (the guidances!) were like - stop worrying about doing anything. It's time to start living in the now a little more. Appreciating all the things that we have, that we are and that we do. Not just the big things, but the little things, like making dinner for someone or having someone make dinner for us - I mean, how freaking awesome is that? Notice these things in your life this week and really focus on them. They are so damn important and sometimes we spend so much time working our butts off for a great future we don't pay enough attention to the here and now.

Middle of the week - Princess of Wands reversed

OK and then we have a warning not to become complacent. Huh? I thought you just said to live in the moment?! You need to stay focussed on the present and often stop and think how wonderful your life is, but you also need to keep moving forward or you run the danger of becoming what we like to call 'comfortable'. Being comfortable is great, and hey, maybe that's part of your journey in this life, but don't you want to do more with your time here?

End of the week - The High Preiestess

Woah, OK. So if we can balance these parts of ourselves we are in for a beautiful surprise! The High Priestess is all about balance and she is uber intuitive, crazy beautiful and if you had to pick one card from the deck to describe 'woman who most has her shit together' I'd pick the H.P every time. It's all about striking that balance between loving where you are and what you have and seeking more. The message I'm getting this week is that it's not about having more. It's about being more and doing more. It's not about having a crazy stupid big house or a million quid to spend on travelling every summer. It's about what you can be and who you can be and what you can do. Don't ever stop being and doing and growing and learning. Just stop putting the focus on the "stuff" for a while.

Have an amazing week guys. You know where you can find me if you fancy a reading, and I'm always around on social media for chats!

<3 I'm sending you all so much love, light and beautiful balancing vibes! <3

Vix

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Weekly Wisdom - Crystal Reading Cards Reading - 4th to 10th May 2015

Crystal Reading Cards - Rachelle Charman

Say hello to the beautiful Crystal Reading Cards by Rachelle Charman! This deck caught my eye at the Belgrave Book Barn (I think I spent almost a whole day in there!) in Australia last month and I just HAD to have it! I've seen a lot of crystal decks around, but none have called to me like this one... As soon as I opened it I did myself a reading and I cried because it was so good! I hope you love them as much as I do!

Start of the week - Sunstone - Empowerment

This is all about standing in your power. Be kind to people for sure, but don't let anyone walk all over you. You have a great deal of inner strength and power, you may find you need to call upon that this week. Open up to your power! Don't be afraid to speak your truth even if you think other people won't like it. Maybe they will like it, maybe they will love it, who knows! Be true to who you are this week, it's way more important than what they say about you by the water cooler.

Middle of the week - Malachite - Healing

Whenever you've healed one part of your life you find something else that needs healing. This doesn't mean that you should just stop bothering - it means the opposite! We are always healing. Spend some time this week acknowledging and considering your healing needs. Get a reading, get some reiki, have some therapy, sometimes we need help with our healing and can't always do it all on our own with a guided meditation. Sometimes you need to speak to a real person! Let others help you heal.

End of the week - Black Tourmaline - Protection

When your energy feels low, or impacted by other people you may need to think about some new energy protection strategies. Watch the video below for a great tip on how to visualise yourself totes protected even without the use of crystals! If you feel like you've been too open and given too much, take some time for you. You might just need a little alone time this week too. Don't feel guilty about it, sometimes you just need to be alone to recharge and stay shiny.

If you would like your very own personal reading using these cards or any others you can always pop over to my Etsy Store, OR you can come see me IN PERSON at what is going to be a very special day this coming weekend - Higher Selfie Live! It's a free event in London which promises to be totally soul nourishing! Check out this link for all the deets!

Don't forget to sign up for the newsletter down below too! I only email you once a week (on Sunday!) to update you with your weekly reading and any other bits and pieces that might help you on your journey, nothing spammy and nothing salesy!

I'm wishing you all a beautiful week here on planet Earth filled with tumble stones, chats with your higher selfie and glitter fingers!

<3 Love, light and crystal healing energy <3

Vix

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