Karmic Relationships

Karmic Relationships - how to spot them and how to clear them!

Karmic Relationships - how to spot them and how to clear them!

Last week week we were all talking about Soulmates and Twin Flames, and this week I thought we'd delve even deeper and have a chat about Karmic Relationships.

<3 So like, what is a Karmic Relationship?

A karmic relationship enters your life because it's time to clear some karma. Usually from past life issues, but it can be due to issues that have been created in this lifetime too. When we find ourselves in a karmic relationship we can either grow, learn and expand or stagnate, obsess, and break apart. Or, which is most often the case with karmic relationships - it's a little of all of the above.

Karmic relationships kind of have this rep of being all consuming, soul destroying, obsessive, passionate and intense love affairs that begin as a feeling of meeting your soulmate and end with you crying your eyes out on your kitchen floor months or years later. But it's not always like that. Sometimes a karmic relationship brings that first love kind of vibe - something new and exciting that reminds you how awesome it is to be alive.

Karmic Relationships are here to teach us something big - about ourselves, about others, about relationships and about life.

Whether we are clearing out past life or current life karma these relationships can come in two costumes - the guy or gal you knew in a past life who brings you the stuff from that life, or the person who you haven't known before but is a kind ofmessenger who brings it all up for you.

You may only have one or two of these relationships in your lifetime, or you may be like me and have spent over 10 years attracting them in various forms!

<3 Past life connections

You know that feeling you get when you meet someone for the first time and you are instantlyattracted to them on some level? It's like you've got the hots for them, or you just find them really interesting or cool, or you start talking to them and it's like you've known them forever. When this happens to me I often think it's because I have met this person before, maybe in a past life, or even in some other realm!

Sometimes we have this feeling about someone and confuse it for this person being our soulmate or twin flame. We start thinking we have to marry this person, and if they are of a different gender from what we usually go for, we can even start thinking that we're changing teams!

So what happens when we hook up with someone we've known in a past life? Sometimes it can be a great thing for us. Someone comes into our life to teach us, help us remember who we are, what we can be, and karmic relationships don't always leave us crying our eyes out in some kind of dark night of the soul type break up. Sometimes this person is here to help you grow and level up. This can be really hard when it ends, even though you will probably come to some beneficial understanding that you've learned what you needed to from each other, and to keep growing you need to go your separate ways.

Maybe you've hooked up with someone you dated or married in a past life. You may have made a plan to meet back up again, because you wanted to be together in your next life too. For some people this works really well for them, and they choose each other over and over again. But what if your life path this time around doesn't match with theirs? What if you came here to join the Peace Corps and they came to experience a comfortable suburban life with a white picket fence? How in the hell is that going to work? Well, it's not. And here you find yourself again, crying on the kitchen floor. But he was the one!! Everything about him was right... except you wanted different things. Just because you were with each other in another life doesn't mean you need to be together again in this one. You need to learn new lessons and grow and achieve new important things, and you know what? Just because you are on different journeys this time around, doesn't mean you aren't going to hang out on a soul level again.

Sometimes though, a karmic relationship is a hell of a lot harder than just wanting different things from life. A lot of us have had hellish past lives with people who were not so nice to us. Maybe you married a man that killed you in a past life, or perhaps you are dating someone who persecuted you in past life for being a white witch. Talk about karma needing clearing! This is when we need to get into a serious look at what's going on; Tarot readings, Past Life regression, whatever type of therapy floats your boat may be in order for you to begin to really let go, forgive and move on from this one!

<3 How to recognise if you are in a karmic relationship

Karmic relationships are usually intense, whether it's because they are constantly painful and it feels like you are travelling to the end of the earth and back on a daily basis, or maybe you are just so freaking ecstatic about being with this person! You may be in a karmic relationship if:

<3 It's tearing you apart but you can't leave

<3 You are on a rollercoaster - it's AMAZING one minute, awful the next

<3 You can never totally be yourself with this person

<3 There is an imbalance of power - yours or theirs

<3 You feel like you are "meant to be together"

<3 You feel like you've known this person before

<3 You've spent more time crying over this relationship than you have enjoying it

<3 You are just totally freaking in love with this person and your life is basically The Notebook

The Notebook - I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day

The Notebook - I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day

<3 How to clear the karma!

So let's say you were murdered 500 years ago, probably by someone who was just following orders and would've been killed themselves if they didn't do what they were told. Do you want to hang on to the karma of hating this person for eternity? Let him be free of having to come and meet you every lifetime because of what he did. Maybe you met this same guy on the weekend and you were so drawn to him and he said he'd call and he didn't. Here's your chance to clear some karma - instead of going bat shit crazy because another random you met didn't call you - forgive him and move on. You don't know why he didn't call (maybe he has a girlfriend, isn't in a good place emotionally, maybe he's just a jerk) and you don't know why he had to do what he did in the past. It's not important. What is important is freeing up your energy so you can do the best of everything you came here to do.

Take a deep breath and say: "I release this karma, I forgive and release all those who have hurt me in all directions of time so that I may move forward no longer held by the karma of my past relationships".

Do you want to keep coming back to learn the same old lessons every life time? Or do you once and for all want to stop dating jerks? Sometimes you have to date a jerk to clear the karma of dating jerks right? And if you don't clear that karma, you are just going to keep dating jerks.

We hereby release all karma that keeps us dating jerks! 

For those of you who are experiencing something a lot more intense than an easy fix jerk dating - spend some time really thinking about your relationship. Try to step outside it and see what's really going on. What's happening? What do you feel? Why are you with this person? Maybe you can't do that because you are so "in" the relationship, and that's when it's good to get an outside opinion. I have helped loads of people with their karmic relationship stuff, and I can totally help you see what's going on with your relationship, why you are in it, why you attracted it and how to get the lessons and move on to the blessings!

The answer isn't always to end your relationship when it's difficult. Sometimes you are just being called to understand what's happening, clear the karma and hey, that can even mean staying in your relationship but watching it go from urgh to amaze! Take those two up there from The Notebook - they went through hell to make it work, dealt with the challenges together and had the love affair to end all love affairs!

While they can be one of the hardest things you'll ever have to deal with, karmic relationships are here to help us grow. The Universe hasn't sent them to you to watch you suffer, they are sent to you so you can experience everything this crazy life has to offer - and hey, isn't that why you signed up to come back?!

You know where I am if you need me!

<3 Love, light and karma clearing! <3



Soulmates and Twin Flames

Soulmates and twin flames - everything you need to know!

Soulmates and twin flames are one of the serious hot topics amongst us spiritual peeps. Do you have a soulmate out there somewhere? Where's your Twin Flame at?! How come you always meet hotties, think you've found your soulmate, then they turn out to be total creeps?!

I love doing relationship readings. As someone who has been through a hell of a lot of relationship "stuff" I love sharing what I've learned in my own life as well as what's in your cards. One thing a lot of people have in common is that they see relationships as destined. Something that happens to them.

This is how I see it...


<3 Soulmates <3

Hollywood has made us think this: You have one soulmate who you are supposed to meet, marry and live happily ever after with. If you don't find your soulmate your life will be incomplete forever. The end. Credits.

You know that feeling you get sometimes when you meet someone new? You feel like you just know this person already? You have so many feelings when you are around them and then, when you are apart you start thinking about them all. the. time. That feeling doesn't mean you are supposed to be with that person forever. Maybe they were someone you hung out with in Ancient Egypt. Maybe they were your hairdresser in Atlantis. Maybe they played trumpet in that Big Band you always used to go and see in the 1920's.

A soulmate is just someone you've known in another life. Probably someone you at least actually liked, were friends with, related to, or yes, maybe even in a relationship with. Your soul family are the people you actively choose to reincarnate with, whereas soulmates are all the people you knew and had adventures with in previous lifetimes.

If you were going to marry your soulmates you'd have a lot of people to marry. That girl you sit next to at work and giggle with all day? If you meet her again in your next lifetime - she's going to be your 'soulmate'. Your souls will recognise each other and you'll have some kind of connection - it doesn't mean you are fated to be together romantically.

You do not have to marry someone just because they were your milkman in a previous life.


<3 Twin Flames <3

Your twin flame is allegedly the other half of your soul.

Ah, heh? My soul is chopped in half and it's walking around somewhere in another body? Whhhaaaaaat? :-O

Some people totally resonate with this idea, and when they find their twin flame they feel complete and perfect and wonderful. If you do feel like your soul is split in half and your other half is out there somewhere trying to find you then that's totally cool too. We are all on a different journey here, and maybe this is a journey some people have chosen.

For me though, the idea that my soul is anything but whole totally grosses me out. I am a whole soul - a whole person and a I can't even begin to imagine what the other half of my soul would be up to if they were just off walking around the planet somewhere!


<3 Karmic Relationships <3

I think I need to cover these in a whole different post you guys, but the gist is that you find yourself in these totally effed up relationships sometimes to deal with karma from the past. Maybe you were going to get married in 1966 and one of you died. Maybe you were even murdered by this person in a past life. Maybe you've attracted them because of relationship patterns you have been repeating or just because you need to learn some stuff. You are drawn to this person to help you clear that karma - not to re-live it! *This is such a nutshell version, stay tuned for a post about this!


I spent my entire twenties trying to find "the one" and looking for "my soulmate". Even though the thought of twin flames never really resonated with me, the idea that there was a person I was meant to be with was totally reassuring. You know, you're sat at home alone watching some chick flick, imagining some guy out there sat at home alone watching some bad action movie. Maybe he's pigging out on popcorn and ice-cream too!!?

I've met a lot of guys that I thought were my soulmate. Some of them I never even dated. I was that girl that every time I met someone new I'd be squealing - "I think he's the one!!" and obsessing over text messages as my friends rolled their eyes.

When I met my current guy it was way different. It was comfortable, maybe a little bit familiar, but it was easy. And everything just fell into place. No games, no drama, no freaking out about not getting texts, no fights.

What I did was make a conscious choice to be with him. And he made the choice to be with me. Every day we make the choice to stay together. And while I do think that I was supposed to meet him, I think we have the free will choice at any point to stay together or part ways. It's not destiny. It's a choice. Great relationships are simply two people jumping in at the same time and saying - yes, this is what I want. It's when that balance gets messy that things get hard.

So I've chosen him as my soulmate. And I really do think we can do that. You can choose your soulmate in this life. Whether this person has shared lifetimes with you, or is a new soul popping up to teach you, to learn from you. That means you can also choose to leave a relationship that feels like destiny but breaks your heart.

You can choose to spend your life with whoever you want to. Your marriage certificate isn't written in stone before you get here.

So stop looking for your soulmate or twin flame, and start seeking someone who is just right for you right now, your journey and all you want from this life here and now.

<3 Love, light and free will lovers! <3



(PS - y'all know where I am if you fancy a relationship reading!)

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