Healing relationships can be one of the most difficult things we're ever called to do on this path.
Relationships are such incredible opportunities for growth, learning and expansion, but at the same time many of them are catalysts for pain, sadness, regret, depression, heartache and well, you catch my drift.
I have found much peace and understanding with the relationships in my own life by working with my higher self and the higher selves of others.
This is a great way to heal stuff with people who are no longer in your life, people you can't just call or write to for a chat, people you don't want to have this out with in person and those passed over.
Connect with your own higher self
If you haven't done much work connecting with your own higher self I suggest you do this first. Spend some time in meditation with an intention to get to know, meet with you and connect with your Higher Self. We do a lot of work on this in Woo Woo 101!
Your higher self is just like your soul self, that part of you that is so much more than your name and appearance in this life!
Create an intention for what you'd like to heal
This works best when you focus on one relationship and issue you'd like to heal and better understand. Work out what it is you want to do.
Do you want understanding? Do you want to be able to forgive someone? Do you want someone to be able to forgive you?
Let go of outcomes
Sometimes what comes through when we do this work is a deep healing, sometimes it's a light-bulb moment where we realise actually the situation we want healed is really nothing to do with us and more about that person's healing journey.
When I have done this work I've had all sorts of different things come in. I've had a deep peace and healing feeling in my heart afterwards, big clearing and a knowledge that all karma is cleared from many lifetimes. I've also had what have felt like very casual chats with people.
It's so often not about that person, but something deep within ourselves that needs love and healing. Some people push our buttons and trigger us but it has nothing to do with them or even our relationship with them, but everything to do with what's going on for us.
When you're ready, create a sacred space.
Of course you can do this anywhere, and it can be just as powerful to do it on the bus! But I do like to put some candles on, have some chilled out music playing, a notebook near by for important downloads and make sure I'm not going to be disturbed half way.
Tune in + Call in your peeps
Call on Archangel Michael (or protector of choice!) to protect you both, and you may also like to bring in specific angels or energies based on what you'd like to heal and clear.
Archangel Raphael is always on hand for some healing, Mother Mary is especially good for relationship work and Archangel Zadkiel is always great to have around for clearing, forgiveness and emotional healing.
If you feel that you have a karmic connection with this person that needs to be removed you can always give the Lords of Karma a bell too.
The Healing work
So now you're going to get into your higher self space and energy.
I do this by going into deep meditation and then either visualising my own energy above me or sort of zooming up and out above myself.
State (out loud or in your head is fine!) that you are calling on your higher self connection.
Once you feel connected to your higher self ask the higher self of the person you'd like some healing with to come in. Ask for their permission: "Hey there, higher self of James Franco (or insert name here!), would it be OK for you to connect for a mo?" Or however formally you'd like to do it!
Whether you feel them present or not don't worry, just start to speak to them. I like doing this out-loud, or whisper soft if other people are home! LOL!
Ask them what you need to know about the relationship, their path, your path together and any lessons that you are learning from this relationship.
Just sit and allow the conversation and connection to flow. You may have a brilliant chat, you may just feel clarity, love, peace. You may just sit and cry.
Trust that whatever happens is what needs to happen. If nothing happens it may not be the right time, or you don't have the permission of the person to connect with their higher self. Sometimes we can't clear and heal things before we've learned what we needed to.
Thank their higher self for coming to you, thank your guides, angels and whoever else was present. Thank your own higher self for their assistance.
You may want to sit in meditation for a while longer or write some notes or pull a card. Whatever you do take some time to come out of this higher self state and make sure you ground your energy when you're ready to come back.
Of course, this is deep healing work so this post is really just the tip of the iceberg of healing in this way, but it's a great starting point! If you want to grab a session with me we can explore your relationship stuff together, or you're interested in being able to do more of this kind of work on your own you may wanna check out my online courses!
With so much love, light and mega high vibe healing,